talking behind my back...? fuck off...!

Not to mention any names,
but there is one person to blame
To whom I know who you are
and have tolerated you thus far...

But witch, you're getting under my skin
and my patience is wearing thin.

If you've got something to say
say it to my face or you can stay
A lying, backstabbing little witch
for I'm not going to be a little snitch...

I'm not like you
I don't talk smack the way you do
And I'm never gonna stoop to your level, your ground
Because I'm the one that knows...
that you're the most envious witch around

You can try to ruin lives
but its not working
So wipe off that grin...
you better stop smerking

Close your rude mouth
close it tight...
for it's been know that you'll talk about somebody right??

I really can't stand you,
you're getting underneath me
But lemme tell ya something hun...

You ain't ever gonna reach me!!

"This is for someone who is a total fake person, you know who you are, get life and mind your own business!"

how to deal with a married boyfriend

Life is not black and white. There are many situations where people stray from the path. Sometimes there is no one at fault; it just is what it is. We all need love and sometimes in a marriage, it is no longer there or maybe never was. It is hard to judge others without walking in their shoes. If you do find yourself in love with someone who is married... be careful... you will be the one who will most likely get hurt, especially if there are children involved. A good man will put his children first and should never be expected to leave them for another woman.

Steps:

1. Don't expect any man to leave his spouse for you, especially if there are children involved.
2. Don't give yourself away to him. If you decide to be with him, keep yourself open to meeting other people but keep him informed of what you are doing.
3. Accept the fact that you will not be the priority in his life.
4. Be his friend, discuss what his reasons are for cheating and try to help him make it work with his family and then gracefully leave to find your own destiny.
5. Don't expect too much from him, he will have too many demands.
6. Love yourself and frequently examine why you are with him. Are you avoiding commitment? Are you suffering from a low self esteem?
7. Try to find someone you can discuss this with. Someone who won't judge you but who is willing to give you straightforward advice.

Tips:

• This may cause emotional pain, but realize that you are just the "other woman." Be very considerate of his wife and family; think about what you are doing and how it may impact others.
• People can judge others in this situation very harshly. Be prepared to deal with various reactions from people who know.
• There are plenty of fish in the sea. Remember that you have options.
• Love yourself.
• Be yourself and do your best to grow as an individual.
• Be honest with yourself and your boyfriend. Think about the reasons that you came together. Everything happens for a reason and lessons are available to be learned from every experience.

Warnings:

• Be cautious: the man may merely be entertaining his whorish tendencies.
• If there are any kids involved, they should--and hopefully will always--come first. If a man does not put his children first in his life, how can you respect him?
• Someone will get hurt in this type of relationship. Be prepared.
• The odds of a "happy ending" for you are always against you.

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how to get a man to marry you

Finding a guy is one thing, but keeping him around is another. Both are important steps. But what are some of the secrets of women who find men willing to commit? This is not an all-encompassing guide, but it may be a start in helping you develop deeper relationships.


Steps:

1. Love yourself. If you're not happy with who you are then don't expect others will be. Analyze yourself and change what you don't like. Positive self-esteem is key.
2. Know your role. An important part of any relationship is making both partners aware that they have a crucial and indispensable role to play.
3. Be emotionally grounded. Life with you should not be a roller coaster ride. Men generally like women who are stable, and vice versa. Sometimes this is a difficult task in our hectic lives, but it is not impossible. If you find yourself referred to as a "drama queen" in more than one instance, seek help and guidance in relaxing your nerves and calming your emotions.
4. Men are often slower to commit because they are very careful about getting to know a woman before they commit to her. They date first before becoming a boyfriend, they stay a boyfriend first before getting engaged. This is often hard for women, but there is a lesson to be learned from it. They make sure (as women should) that they feel compatible on all levels. This process must happen at its own pace. Pressuring a man to make a decision before he feels he knows you will inevitably lead him to doubt. Don't talk about marriage until either he brings it up or it's been about a year.
5. Keep dating fun, as it should be. If dating goes well, and your interactions are positive, he'll want you to be his girlfriend. If he builds experience with you and sees you as a person he wants to be with forever, he will get more serious about his future and work, start considering longer-term goals such as buying a home, and begin to discuss the future more and more. Only once he has made a decision about you and feels prepared and mature enough to propose will he do so.
6. Show confidence. Be sure of yourself, and ready to tackle whatever is before you. Many men love confident women. How can a man not feel privileged when he earns the esteem of a woman who values herself so highly?
7. Show endearment with class. A certain look. A scratch on the back. A soft kiss. Nothing "clingy" or inappropriate.
8. Appreciate a man's strengths. And tell him so, even if he's already prideful. Then support him when he is at his best, and avoid nagging or berating him when he is at his worst.
9. Be fun. This sounds basic, but it's a critical factor in any relationship. Have a sense of humor. Don’t be uptight or negative.
10. Overflow with joy. Women who are glad to be alive and are enjoying every minute of it may be irrepressibly attractive to men.
11. Glow. If the warmth of your heart is written all over your face, and your feelings for your guy show in the sparkle in your eyes, you will melt him. This is what removes all doubt - it's the important "silver bullet".
12. Practice humility. A humble person is not someone who downplays herself; it is a person who controls her ego and shows a genuine interest in others.
13. Date. It may not be obvious, but you actually have to go out on dates with a man and commit to a relationship before he will propose. The term "date" in modern culture is vague and sometimes redefined as something more than it is. Simply converse with a man and get to know more about each others' lives.
14. Don't assume. Some men wait slightly longer than you might want before they ask. If he is really worth marrying, you should be willing to wait (within reason). But if he is uninterested (or worse, making excuses) even after a long period of time, you need to reevaluate the direction of your relationship.
15. Remember that romance runs both ways. If you want to be respected and treated as an equal, do the same for him. Be romantic. Make him want to be in this relationship. Don't be a cheapskate. Men often enjoy romance too; pretending otherwise will only drive him away.
16. Remember that some men are perfectly willing to date women they really like but don't see as "marriage material." If, after six months to a year, you still haven't heard him refer to his future plans for marriage or family (with or without you) you may need to ask, "What qualities do you look for in someone you see yourself committing to?" If he mentions qualities he's complimented you on, take it as a good sign. If his compliments are largely related to sex, it probably is not.
17. If you feel the need to have a serious talk, reconsider the approach. Instead of coming at him with a serious tone (which will bring up his innate fear of pressure for commitment), be upbeat and positive. "I really love spending time with you. I really feel happy around you. But I just want to double check and see if we're on the same page. While I know it is too soon for us to worry about it, I do want to get married in the future and want to make sure I'm dating someone who has the same values as me. As we get to know each other better and better, are you beginning to see me as someone you could possibly see that happening with?"
18. Convey unconditional love. A strong relationship should be based upon more than convenience. Pushing past difficult times while remaining together requires a deep commitment and appreciation for one another. Unconditional love is developed over time. It is a choice we make, not necessarily a feeling we experience.
19. Set goals. Marriage itself only works when you're moving forward, so it's good practice to start now. Generally speaking, men like women who know who they are and where they're going, even if some of the goals need to be changed a bit down the road.
20. "Winning the Man NOT the Argument". In any relationship, disagreements will occur. However the key to resolving issues is not only to talk these through. You need to be able to discuss all issues effectively. Never bring up previously unresolved issues - they are in the past and that is where they should be left. Never discuss issues with your partner if you haven't resolved this emotionally with your self first. If thinking about an issue makes you feel upset or angry, then do not bring this up with your partner. If you do, there is a chance that the your emotions will get the better of you, you will not be thinking or communicating clearly if this happens. Which can lead to an argument. Discuss things objectively and think with an open mind. If you want him to understand you, you must be willing to understand and listen to him too.

Tips:

• A comfort with, and affinity towards men is non-negotiable. No man will commit to spending the rest of his life with a "man hater"... nor should he.
• If you disrespect a man by openly flirting with other men in his presence, don't expect a ring.
• If he is not showing a desire to marry after several months or longer, he may never want to marry you. You don't want a man to "settle" for you; your partner should see you as his first choice or something is wrong.
• Know what you are looking for in a man. Learn what personally attracts you to others to help find a better match. Be honest about communicating these preferences, but do so in subtle, caring manner.
• Ironically, women who give men an incentive to marry them may end up moving him in the opposite direction.
• It's certainly important to maintain who you are. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Whatever attracted him to you, be sure to maintain it. It is well-documented that men appreciate women who are beautiful, cute, and/or sexy in their eyes. If you disregard this fact, don't expect your man to view you as the "most beautiful woman in the world".
• Visualize being the woman who a man remembers fondly. Capitalize on your positive unique qualities, talents, or interests.
• As author Sarah Ban Breathnach said, "If you wait for the best, you will very often get it." Expect good things to happen. Create a mission statement - and be specific - defining precisely what it is you want in a man. Revisit and revise this statement from time to time. Prepare yourself mentally to meet and marry the man of your dreams.
• Show some confidence-women who have high self-esteem, are comfortable and happy with themselves, are irresistible to men. Smile, show off your love for him and yourself by showing how happy your relationship makes you!
• Always, always, always keep trying new things on multiple fronts. Whether it's new food, a new sport, or a new travel destination, this will keep life exciting, and you interested in your own life. Both men and women become depressed when they feel they know exactly what to expect out of the rest of their lives.
• Be positive, fearless, and enjoy your life! If you think you need him to make life more fulfilling, then you need to focus on you for a while and learn how to be whole without him. A man won't fill any void.

Warnings:

• Women whom men eventually leave might exhibit the following traits:
  
  
  • Complaining. It’s not good to be negative. After a while this is like listening to a bad disco record over and over. Believe it.
  • Thinking men are all about sex. Giving it out early and often will not necessarily keep a man. Hint: How soon first sex happens, in and of itself, has little to do with how long a relationship lasts.
  • Focused on physical appearance. Being cute is not enough to land a well-rounded guy forever. If you get a guy to commit to you based on looks alone, stay tuned for a miserable life together.
  • Taking no risks. They worry about everything and don’t have the guts to go for what they want.
  • Having general problems. OK, someone else in your past has nothing to do with your new guy. You must enjoy being a woman and be attracted to what makes men male.
  • Jealousy. Unfortunately, jealous people may also cheat on their partners.
  • Critical. Studies say that when people criticize others, listeners tend to consign the traits criticized to the speaker him/herself. Are you a walking, self-fulfilling prophecy?
  • Vanity: No guy likes a wife who goes around thinking she's better than everyone around her. Positive Self-esteem-Good. Vanity-Bad.
  • Don't be controlling. If you are a controlling woman, you are not showing him the respect he may need to feel good about himself.
  • Do not humiliate him or question his manhood. He will leave you for sure.
  • Control yourself, watch what you are saying even if you are angry, frustrated, etc. You can not get your words back.
  • Before going out of your way to get a man to marry you - consider why you would want to be married to someone who doesn't want to be married to you.

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how to be a mistress

Becoming a Mistress to a married man is not something to enter into lightly. Be sure you are doing this for the "right" reasons because you love this man, he loves you, and he cannot or will not sever his relationship with his wife. Having an affair with a married man is not a game. It is a commitment with a very high price tag. People can, and usually do, get hurt.

Steps:

1. Question your motives very carefully. If you find a mutual attraction with a married man ask yourself if you really want to pursue this relationship knowing that you will spend holidays alone and that you will always take a back seat to his family.
2. Be discreet. Realize that if you do anything to cause his wife to discover your secret, he will only hate you for it and you will likely lose him.
3. Be prepared to have to work harder than his wife to hold onto him. You are dispensable. She is not. She gets half his assets if they divorce. He has worked hard for what he has attained and hates the thought of losing it. His kids need him, and if he is the kind of man you think he is, he will not want to hurt his children.
4. Make your time together unforgettable. This means the fun, non-committal things such as mind-blowing intimacy, indulgent fantasies, and listening when he needs to talk. These are the things he wants from you. Be his fantasy girl. He has enough reality in his life.
5. Grant him the unconditional love he desires. If you really want to hold onto him, you must accept that commitment is not to be. This does not mean you become a doormat. Long-lasting affairs are built on trust, intimacy and respect, just as any good relationship is. Usually long-term affairs are affairs of the intellect as well as affairs of the heart and body.
6. Keep some personal time and space. Make sure he understands and respects that you have a life outside of him. You are not his servant; you are his respected lover and confidant.

Tips:

• It helps to be a very independent woman who thrives on challenges and enjoys being alone.
• Don't ever criticise how he looks in his racing leathers ( he looks like chorizo in a casing)and refer tho the fact that he is chasing his youth.
• Look at what you have as more of an arrangement than a relationship. You cannot ask a married man to be your boyfriend, because he is just not available to fulfill that role. You have to be ok with the idea of sharing him.
• Set up a joint web-based email address for untrackable flirtatious emails... and pics
• If during your affair, you meet a man of boyfriend material, grab the chance with both hands as in all likelihood your married man will never leave his wife.
• Leave no trails- it may feel good to read and re-read letters/sms/notes but it WILL lead you to getting caught.

Warnings:

• The likelihood of getting hurt is very high. Most married men will not leave their spouse unless they get caught. Even then, they may try to work things out with her, which usually means leaving you behind. If you try to "break- them-up" you will become the enemy to him and lose him, even if she leaves him.
• The more you expect from an extra marital affair, the more likely you are to be disappointed.
• Be careful you may not be as strong an independent as you think you are. You probably will get hurt.

Things You'll Need:

• Courage, guts, and a fair amount of non- traditional ethics.
• Hobbies to fill the time when he is with his first family.
• Flexibility (do some yoga)
• Someone absolutely discreet and non- judgemental to confide in, (nb completely outside the situation!) to keep yourself rational!

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goodbye my dear...

I'M SO DONE...
I'M THROUGH...
IT'S YOUR FAULT...
IT'S YOU...

CHORUS [T.I. and Ciara]

You can never ever say I ain’t gave my love,
You can never say I don't care,
Since the beginning I've been here, I ain't changed
my love,
Regardless of what you may feel,
Us breaking up today would be a shame my love,
Don’t think it’s such a good idea,
But you don’t show me that you appreciate my
love,
I had to say goodbye my dear.
My dear my dear...Say goodbye my dear...


Verse 1 [Ciara]

I’m packin’ up boy I got to leave,
Gave you my heart & my soul, I gave everything,
Spent so much time in the streets,
You lied, you creeped,
And I stayed here with you.
OOH...
Dont wanna do this to my family,
They wanna see us together, living happily,
But you are so unfair, you showed no care,
And that’s why I am through...
All the pain, (all the pain)
All these years, (all these years)
I hate to walk away,
But I got to say goodbye my dear,
I'm so done with you boy.

CHORUS
You can never ever say I ain’t gave my love,
You can never say I don't care,
Since the beginning I've been here, I aint changed

my love,
Regardless of what you may feel,
Us breaking up today would be a shame my love,
Don’t think it’s such a good idea,
But you don’t show me that you appreciate my
love,
I had to say goodbye my dear.
My dear my dear...Say goodbye my dear...


Verse 2 [ T.I.]

We've been going through this so long,
And you don't listen to me so now I'm showing
you,
You’ll see when im gone you’ll miss me more than

you you think you will
ain’t Nan nigga gonna do all that I done did
all the years I been knowin you
look at how we live and look what u got me goin
through
Girlfriend in your ear got you thinking I aint shit…
she say I aint doin nothing for you aint dat some
shit
I ain’t finna have this shit so imma let you have the
shit
better stop tryin’ me or imma hurt you and that

bitch
I don’t mean no harm, no
but I been tryin’ hard yo,
I oughta walk away…
she got a hold on my heart though (though)

CHORUS [T.I. and Ciara]

You can never ever say I ain’t gave my love,
You can never say I don't care,
Since the beginning I've been here, I aint changed

my love,
Regardless of what you may feel,
Us breaking up today would be a shame my love,
Don’t think it’s such a good idea,
But you won’t show me that you appreciate my
love,
I had to say goodbye my dear.

My dear my dear...Say goodbye my dear...

BRIDGE [T.I. and Ciara]

First we fuss and we fight and we break up
Then we kiss and make love and we make up
Do this over and over but no more shawty this time

im 4sho
First we fuss and we fight and we break up
Then we kiss and make love and we make up
Do this over and over but no more shawty this time

im 4sho

CHORUS [T.I. and Ciara]

You can never ever say I ain’t gave my love,
You can never say I don't care,
Since the beginning I've been here, I aint changed

my love,
Regardless of what you may feel,
Us breaking up today would be a shame my love,
Don’t think it’s such a good idea,
But you don’t show me that you appreciate my

love,
I have to say goodbye my dear.
My dear my dear...Say goodbye my dear...

[Ciara Ad-libbing at the end]

Tip I stayed down for you even waited around for
you

…I said but…but but but…
Now you cant never say I aint gave my love,
you cant never say I don’t care…

[Ciara speaking as music fades out]
damn why It gotta end like this….


by: ti ft ciara