Love is in the air... that's all I can say.Sunday, December 12, 2010
Monday, November 15, 2010
how do you know if a man is serious?
The world is made up of all types of people, but in that large eclectic group there are some categories we can discern. For men, we have the gay, the bisexual, and the straight (heterosexual) categories. Then we have the introvert, the extrovert, and the ambivert (what we like to call a middle-of-the-road-o-vert). Then there are the baby-makers, the wannabe baby-makers, and the 'probably-will-never-make-a-baby...ers'.
Narrowing these down, let's discuss the types of men who will be approaching you (and a little bit about how you will feel about them).
First thing to understand is that God programmed all men to naturally have a drive to procreate to populate the Earth. One of the oldest complaints women have is, "Is that all you ever think about?!?". And happily for the sake of the continuation of the human race, the answer for many men is, "Yes... that, and grown-up toys like fast cars, boats, etc."
Again... men are after one thing and one thing only... sex. Everything else we do is just to fill the time in between those 'procreative encounters of the third kind'. Men don't need women for anything else. Friends? Go take a hike! We got plenty of other men to be friends with... and men friends can shoot hoops with you, help rebuild an engine, discuss the destructive firepower of various firearms, and help till the garden. And none of our men friends will ever demand a single flower from us, will never require 'snuggle-time' with us, will never require us to buy them an expensive dinner out. As a matter of fact, if we started buying gifts for our men friends to prove to them how much we care about them, we'd probably get beat up by those same friends. At the very least, we'd be ostracized very quickly.
Keep that contrast in mind to help understand men's motivations.
No man buys flowers for a woman because he wants to. He buys the flowers because it keeps you smiling and happy. And it is easier to get you naked if you are happy.
No man buys jewelry or other trinkets and baubles for a woman because he wants to. He buys them because he knows it will keep you smiling and happy. And it is easier to get you naked if you are happy.
No man buys an expensive meal at a restaurant for a woman because he wants to. But he will take you out, and spend tons of money on a meal because he knows it will keep you smiling and happy. And it is easier to get you naked if you are happy.
Men are programmed to get the honey from the honey pot. Some have a stronger programming than others but we all have it. It's guaranteed that within 90 seconds after climax (right when you want to do the snuggling) we are wondering if we left that 1/4 inch wrench on the workbench or did we put it back in the toolbox? Or some similar thought that has little to do with what you and he had just 'shared'.
Now, to avoid making it sound like all is lost -- that no man will ever truly be 'serious' about you, here is additional insight.
Men don't need women for "friends"... but you can become a friend.
Although we have a primal urge to sow the oats anywhere and everywhere, many men do have a concept of honor, integrity, and loyalty. It is that which moderates our primal urge to procreate.
So... how can you tell if a man is really serious about you? Here's how...
1. Understand that initially a man flirting with you is serious about getting you naked (blame that on God, not the man. But really that's how our human race is still here! So it is not really a blame, but instead it is just the way it is).
2. Ask who was his girlfriend last week, or last month, or last year. No matter what a man's mouth is saying, if he was with someone else last week or last month, you are just the next notch on his headboard. Again... if he was with someone else last week or last month, YOU are just the next NOTCH on his HEADBOARD.
3. If he seems like a great catch, handsome and a good conversationalist, why is he single? The old folks had a lament that "All the good ones are married!" And that lament is true... or almost true. Most of the good ones are married or involved with someone else... because THEY ARE the good ones. If he is handsome and a smooth talker, but hasn't been married or in a long term relationship for a long time it is usually because he is not serious (remember, that was your question).
4. If the words,
"My wife doesn't understand me..", or the words,
"My girlfriend doesn't understand me...", or the words,
"My wife is a bitch!", or the words,
"My girlfriend is a Bitch!"
ever come out of his mouth while he is sweet-talking you, RUN! You are being played BIG TIME. Honor, loyalty, honor, loyalty. Big items for an upright man. A sense of honor and a sense of loyalty control the primal urges of a decent man. What he is saying now about her, he'll be saying three months from now about YOU, to his next 'notch' target.
Now, about a man's words. The old folks had a saying that actions speak louder than words.
The next time he brings you flowers, say to him, "Honey (or whatever his name is), I really like the flowers but if you really care about me would you volunteer some hours at the local homeless shelter in lieu of flowers to me?
The next time he wants to take you out to an expensive dinner, say to him, "Honey (or whatever his name is), I really appreciate the offer to go to dinner, but the local playground has been needing new playground equipment for years. If you really care about me, would you take that 'dinner' money and help me start a fundraiser to raise the money for new equipment? We can work on it together."
The next time he wants to buy some jewelry for you, say, " Honey (or whatever his name is) I really appreciate your desire to adorn me in pretty things, but if you really care about me let's take that money and go buy kids' toys and then donate them to the Marine Corps Toys For Tots program. We can do that together.
The next time he comes over and just wants to "hang out" with you, say, "Honey (or whatever his name is) I really appreciate that you want to spend some time with me. But let's not just sit around at my house. Old widow Jones who lives across the street is too old to mow her lawn and she's been paying Bob to mow it every week. But she is only getting Social Security and she doesn't really have that money to spare. Instead of us sitting around my house, let's grab a mower and go mow widow Jones's lawn for her-- free of charge. We can do that together.
I could go on and on with more examples... think some up yourself.
In other words, make him do something for somebody else -- to demonstrate his true seriousness about you. Most 'players' don't have the time for "do-gooder" shenanigans and they will move on to an easier 'notch' target. After all, it is much easier to just grab some paper from your wallet and trade it to some guy for some flowers that you had no part in tending, watering, or fertilizing and carry them over to some chick's house, and hand them to her with a big smile on your face as if you've really done something and sweet talk her for the rest of the night on her couch until she finally gives in and opens the honey pot.
And finally, again, you will never know the truth if a man is serious about you from his mouth. Here are some comparative examples of what someone whom is "serious" would say juxtaposed with what a non-serious "Player" would say.
SERIOUS: "Honey I love you. You mean the world to me. I can't stop thinking about you!"
PLAYER: "Honey I love you. You mean the world to me. I can't stop thinking about you!"
SERIOUS: "I want to spend the rest of my life with you!"
PLAYER: "I want to spend the rest of my life with you!"
Can you tell the difference? No? That's what I mean... you will never know the truth if a man is serious about you from his mouth.
http://wiki.answers.com
Narrowing these down, let's discuss the types of men who will be approaching you (and a little bit about how you will feel about them).
First thing to understand is that God programmed all men to naturally have a drive to procreate to populate the Earth. One of the oldest complaints women have is, "Is that all you ever think about?!?". And happily for the sake of the continuation of the human race, the answer for many men is, "Yes... that, and grown-up toys like fast cars, boats, etc."
Again... men are after one thing and one thing only... sex. Everything else we do is just to fill the time in between those 'procreative encounters of the third kind'. Men don't need women for anything else. Friends? Go take a hike! We got plenty of other men to be friends with... and men friends can shoot hoops with you, help rebuild an engine, discuss the destructive firepower of various firearms, and help till the garden. And none of our men friends will ever demand a single flower from us, will never require 'snuggle-time' with us, will never require us to buy them an expensive dinner out. As a matter of fact, if we started buying gifts for our men friends to prove to them how much we care about them, we'd probably get beat up by those same friends. At the very least, we'd be ostracized very quickly.
Keep that contrast in mind to help understand men's motivations.
No man buys flowers for a woman because he wants to. He buys the flowers because it keeps you smiling and happy. And it is easier to get you naked if you are happy.
No man buys jewelry or other trinkets and baubles for a woman because he wants to. He buys them because he knows it will keep you smiling and happy. And it is easier to get you naked if you are happy.
No man buys an expensive meal at a restaurant for a woman because he wants to. But he will take you out, and spend tons of money on a meal because he knows it will keep you smiling and happy. And it is easier to get you naked if you are happy.
Men are programmed to get the honey from the honey pot. Some have a stronger programming than others but we all have it. It's guaranteed that within 90 seconds after climax (right when you want to do the snuggling) we are wondering if we left that 1/4 inch wrench on the workbench or did we put it back in the toolbox? Or some similar thought that has little to do with what you and he had just 'shared'.
Now, to avoid making it sound like all is lost -- that no man will ever truly be 'serious' about you, here is additional insight.
Men don't need women for "friends"... but you can become a friend.
Although we have a primal urge to sow the oats anywhere and everywhere, many men do have a concept of honor, integrity, and loyalty. It is that which moderates our primal urge to procreate.
So... how can you tell if a man is really serious about you? Here's how...
1. Understand that initially a man flirting with you is serious about getting you naked (blame that on God, not the man. But really that's how our human race is still here! So it is not really a blame, but instead it is just the way it is).
2. Ask who was his girlfriend last week, or last month, or last year. No matter what a man's mouth is saying, if he was with someone else last week or last month, you are just the next notch on his headboard. Again... if he was with someone else last week or last month, YOU are just the next NOTCH on his HEADBOARD.
3. If he seems like a great catch, handsome and a good conversationalist, why is he single? The old folks had a lament that "All the good ones are married!" And that lament is true... or almost true. Most of the good ones are married or involved with someone else... because THEY ARE the good ones. If he is handsome and a smooth talker, but hasn't been married or in a long term relationship for a long time it is usually because he is not serious (remember, that was your question).
4. If the words,
"My wife doesn't understand me..", or the words,
"My girlfriend doesn't understand me...", or the words,
"My wife is a bitch!", or the words,
"My girlfriend is a Bitch!"
ever come out of his mouth while he is sweet-talking you, RUN! You are being played BIG TIME. Honor, loyalty, honor, loyalty. Big items for an upright man. A sense of honor and a sense of loyalty control the primal urges of a decent man. What he is saying now about her, he'll be saying three months from now about YOU, to his next 'notch' target.
Now, about a man's words. The old folks had a saying that actions speak louder than words.
The next time he brings you flowers, say to him, "Honey (or whatever his name is), I really like the flowers but if you really care about me would you volunteer some hours at the local homeless shelter in lieu of flowers to me?
The next time he wants to take you out to an expensive dinner, say to him, "Honey (or whatever his name is), I really appreciate the offer to go to dinner, but the local playground has been needing new playground equipment for years. If you really care about me, would you take that 'dinner' money and help me start a fundraiser to raise the money for new equipment? We can work on it together."
The next time he wants to buy some jewelry for you, say, " Honey (or whatever his name is) I really appreciate your desire to adorn me in pretty things, but if you really care about me let's take that money and go buy kids' toys and then donate them to the Marine Corps Toys For Tots program. We can do that together.
The next time he comes over and just wants to "hang out" with you, say, "Honey (or whatever his name is) I really appreciate that you want to spend some time with me. But let's not just sit around at my house. Old widow Jones who lives across the street is too old to mow her lawn and she's been paying Bob to mow it every week. But she is only getting Social Security and she doesn't really have that money to spare. Instead of us sitting around my house, let's grab a mower and go mow widow Jones's lawn for her-- free of charge. We can do that together.
I could go on and on with more examples... think some up yourself.
In other words, make him do something for somebody else -- to demonstrate his true seriousness about you. Most 'players' don't have the time for "do-gooder" shenanigans and they will move on to an easier 'notch' target. After all, it is much easier to just grab some paper from your wallet and trade it to some guy for some flowers that you had no part in tending, watering, or fertilizing and carry them over to some chick's house, and hand them to her with a big smile on your face as if you've really done something and sweet talk her for the rest of the night on her couch until she finally gives in and opens the honey pot.
And finally, again, you will never know the truth if a man is serious about you from his mouth. Here are some comparative examples of what someone whom is "serious" would say juxtaposed with what a non-serious "Player" would say.
SERIOUS: "Honey I love you. You mean the world to me. I can't stop thinking about you!"
PLAYER: "Honey I love you. You mean the world to me. I can't stop thinking about you!"
SERIOUS: "I want to spend the rest of my life with you!"
PLAYER: "I want to spend the rest of my life with you!"
Can you tell the difference? No? That's what I mean... you will never know the truth if a man is serious about you from his mouth.
http://wiki.answers.com
Friday, November 05, 2010
to let go
To let go doesn't mean to stop caring; It means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off... It's the realization that I can't control another... To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. To let go is not to try and change or blame another, I can only change myself. To let go is not to care for, but to care about. To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive. To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being. To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own outcomes. To let go is not to be protective, It is to permit another to face reality. To let go is not to deny, but to accept. To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue, but to search out my own shortcomings and correct them. To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and cherish the moment. To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone, but to try to become what I dream I can be. To let go is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future. To let go is to fear less and love more.
Tuesday, November 02, 2010
thanks for nothing
Y'all know what this is
SO SO DEF
Oh, OH, OH, Oh,
Thanks for nothing
-Verse 1-
I cant even know what to say
I've been hurt I've been played
and I'm so ashamed
I can't even cry it's that deep
You just lie and you cheat
LIke its nothing
see you said that you loved me to and so I trusted you but i guess that subconsciously knew
but i never would've guest the truth
that i was only being used
and you was just fronting
-chorus
aye boy thanks for nothing
i never knew enough about you babe
i guess i only have myself to blame
now im broken hearted and shattering
you were just playing a game
nothing anyone can do to convince me babe
i was living in a lie, a masquerade
now i only know that ill never be the same
you were just playing a game
(oh, oh ) (oh, oh)
thanks for nothing
-Verse 2-
everyday and every night, i stay by the phone
never go no place, so just incase you called i be home
seemed like all i do is think about our screwed up romance
while you're somewhere burning diesel in the streets having laughs
-Hook-
somebody say you know what I'm going thru
even if were nothing to
but you cant count on one hand
singing 3456
7 days a week you-re laying in tears , he was so insincere
now you laying up in bed saying..
-chorus
aye boy thanks for nothing
i never knew enough about you babe
i guess i only have myself to blame
now im broken hearted and shattering
you were just playing game
nothing anyone can do to convince me babe
i was living in a lie, a masquered
now i only know that ill never be the same
you were just playing a game
(oh, oh ) (oh, oh)
thanks for nothing
Saturday, October 23, 2010
things you lied about
You lied about your age.
I always have doubts about your age. I pretended I forgot your age so asked how old are you again thinking you may tell the truth this time. But, you still said the you were 35 then... when we first met online and you had your birthday on March 4 this year, so you turned 36. I knew for a fact you're the eldest among the brothers. So, since I'm so smart, I knew right then and there you were lying about your age. Besides, the wrinkles in your forehead are worst than who are almost 50 years of age. So don't deny that you are 41 years old and your brother next to you is the one 36 years old.
You lied about your Face Book account.
You made up stories that you are being harassed! Of what? Friends from baseball because your team always wins? Its kids stuff! Who are you to be harassed by other people? I don't think they are envy of you or the team either. Admit that you deactivated your account on purpose because you can't stand what you did. Everything are all coming back to you huh?! That one day the wife might know? Hahaha... Chicken!!!
You're always making up stories.
I hate it whenever I read your emails talking about "self pity", "busy with work" but was always able to leave friends notes saying "hello" from social networking site. Aren't you man enough to stand for yourself?! So what if you were the only one not invited to a party?! Hell with them! So what if your kids doesn't want to do anything with you?! Accept it! They are growing up, they want to spend more time with their friends than you. Stop treating them like babies! Gosh!!! So what if your boss is upset with you? Telling those stories seems you're the one who makes yourself feel that way that everyone upsets you. You are the worst human being who's having so much self pity and everyone around you by making up stories.
You lied about your feelings.
You lied about your feelings for me. I was broken hearted, devastated and my world was shattered. (But I feel so much better now and relieved). You lied about every single word you told me. I hate it every time you write "much love to you" because I know for a fact there was no real love to begin with. All lip service. If I'm not mistaken those are the same words you are using when ever you write with your online flirting friends and oh never forget the virtual flowers too! Hahaha....
You lied about not walking out of our friendship.
I know we're just friends. Its only a mere illusion of that you and me will be together. However everything I felt for you was true. No lies. You pulled back not me. I know you're afraid that there will come a time I might not be able to handle it. Maybe not if you are real. Truth prevail and it did!
Lastly, I know all about you... more than you know. I'm not stupid as you think I am. I no longer consider you as a part of my life. Friends? Not anymore either. Friends, do not walk out of their friends life and never lies. You are too scared. You think I cannot handle it. You are so dumb wrong. You're the one who can't handle about the lies you said about yourself and too scared that people might know how desperate you are. Please stop pretending you're a nice person...because were never nice at all.
I always have doubts about your age. I pretended I forgot your age so asked how old are you again thinking you may tell the truth this time. But, you still said the you were 35 then... when we first met online and you had your birthday on March 4 this year, so you turned 36. I knew for a fact you're the eldest among the brothers. So, since I'm so smart, I knew right then and there you were lying about your age. Besides, the wrinkles in your forehead are worst than who are almost 50 years of age. So don't deny that you are 41 years old and your brother next to you is the one 36 years old.
You lied about your Face Book account.
You made up stories that you are being harassed! Of what? Friends from baseball because your team always wins? Its kids stuff! Who are you to be harassed by other people? I don't think they are envy of you or the team either. Admit that you deactivated your account on purpose because you can't stand what you did. Everything are all coming back to you huh?! That one day the wife might know? Hahaha... Chicken!!!
You're always making up stories.
I hate it whenever I read your emails talking about "self pity", "busy with work" but was always able to leave friends notes saying "hello" from social networking site. Aren't you man enough to stand for yourself?! So what if you were the only one not invited to a party?! Hell with them! So what if your kids doesn't want to do anything with you?! Accept it! They are growing up, they want to spend more time with their friends than you. Stop treating them like babies! Gosh!!! So what if your boss is upset with you? Telling those stories seems you're the one who makes yourself feel that way that everyone upsets you. You are the worst human being who's having so much self pity and everyone around you by making up stories.
You lied about your feelings.
You lied about your feelings for me. I was broken hearted, devastated and my world was shattered. (But I feel so much better now and relieved). You lied about every single word you told me. I hate it every time you write "much love to you" because I know for a fact there was no real love to begin with. All lip service. If I'm not mistaken those are the same words you are using when ever you write with your online flirting friends and oh never forget the virtual flowers too! Hahaha....
You lied about not walking out of our friendship.
I know we're just friends. Its only a mere illusion of that you and me will be together. However everything I felt for you was true. No lies. You pulled back not me. I know you're afraid that there will come a time I might not be able to handle it. Maybe not if you are real. Truth prevail and it did!
Lastly, I know all about you... more than you know. I'm not stupid as you think I am. I no longer consider you as a part of my life. Friends? Not anymore either. Friends, do not walk out of their friends life and never lies. You are too scared. You think I cannot handle it. You are so dumb wrong. You're the one who can't handle about the lies you said about yourself and too scared that people might know how desperate you are. Please stop pretending you're a nice person...because were never nice at all.
Wednesday, August 25, 2010
" i can't wait to hate you"
Hello!
Its been a while since the last time I wrote here...
I'm sorry...
But yes, I admit I only write here if I'm depress. What can I do? Writing here is very comforting. It removes my anxiety and loneliness for the meantime. And yes, I'm feeling depress right now... I feel I'm alone. Imagine how amazing navigating online can give you so much information. Answers to your questions you're afraid to ask. Fortunately, I was very lucky I found it out online...!
Anyway... I don't know if I have to ask if its true or not? I guess I need more time to think... If everything works out fine and turned to be alright... maybe what I found was just nothing or maybe it could be true...
But hey! I love this song!
once upon a time, we swore not to say goodbye
something got a hold of us and we changed
then you sat alone in pride
and I sat at home and cried
how'd our fairytale just end up this way
we went round for round til' we knocked love out
we were laying in the ring, not making a sound
and if that's a metaphor of you and I
why is it so hard to say goodbye
I can't wait to hate you
make you, pain like i do..
still can't shake you off..
I can't wait to break through
these emotional changes..
seems like such a loss cause
I can't wait to face you,
break you, down so low
there's no place left to go..
I can't wait to hate you..
love is, was a love phenomenon no one could explain
and i wish, i could press reset and feel that feeling again
i sit and press rewind and watch us every night..
wanna pause it, but i can't make it stay
we went round for round til' we knocked love out
we were laying in the ring, not making a sound
and if that's a metaphor of you and I
why is it so hard to say goodbye
by: mariah carey
Its been a while since the last time I wrote here...
I'm sorry...
But yes, I admit I only write here if I'm depress. What can I do? Writing here is very comforting. It removes my anxiety and loneliness for the meantime. And yes, I'm feeling depress right now... I feel I'm alone. Imagine how amazing navigating online can give you so much information. Answers to your questions you're afraid to ask. Fortunately, I was very lucky I found it out online...!
Anyway... I don't know if I have to ask if its true or not? I guess I need more time to think... If everything works out fine and turned to be alright... maybe what I found was just nothing or maybe it could be true...
But hey! I love this song!
once upon a time, we swore not to say goodbye
something got a hold of us and we changed
then you sat alone in pride
and I sat at home and cried
how'd our fairytale just end up this way
we went round for round til' we knocked love out
we were laying in the ring, not making a sound
and if that's a metaphor of you and I
why is it so hard to say goodbye
I can't wait to hate you
make you, pain like i do..
still can't shake you off..
I can't wait to break through
these emotional changes..
seems like such a loss cause
I can't wait to face you,
break you, down so low
there's no place left to go..
I can't wait to hate you..
love is, was a love phenomenon no one could explain
and i wish, i could press reset and feel that feeling again
i sit and press rewind and watch us every night..
wanna pause it, but i can't make it stay
we went round for round til' we knocked love out
we were laying in the ring, not making a sound
and if that's a metaphor of you and I
why is it so hard to say goodbye
by: mariah carey
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